Currently I find myself and many of my clients working on the concept of responding rather than reacting. We are currently living in a time of instability, possibility and change.
We need to be flexible and adaptable to changing situations.
I am curious how we find ourselves justifying our positions in life. We tend to always lean towards our default position – protection. At all costs we protect ourselves from others and focus continually on how we think we ought to show up or what we think we should allow others to see. This protection default button is usually born from many experiences we have had in the past.
It is driven by an overriding desire for control, approval and safety.
What would happen if we decided to rather lead and show up from belief in our intuition? What if we were willing to dance on the edge, take risks, failing or succeeding, and adapting in order to advance.
Steering your own ship – standing alone and speaking your truth is a frightening thought, however the possibility of transforming something common into something special becomes far easier.
Seek out new ideas and try new things. Become inclusive, new ideas must be expressed in order to be explored. Operating from a place of openness allows you to clearly articulate your ideas, behaviours and actions. Being present allows for creativity and change to be supported.
Seek out feedback and learn from the mistakes you make. Respond to feedback do not react. Be curious about your response – “am I speaking on behalf of the greater good?”?
In order to respond you need to engage all of yourself – your heart, head and core need to be aligned.
Learn to understand and observe what our reactive patterns are. When and why do they occur? Recognising these patterns gives us the choice to respond. We can choose to uplift, open and settle in order to get a better view of the situation or we can choose to react which will result in our stress reactions sabotaging us and shutting down possibilities.
The ability to shift from our default position of protection will take practice. Be compassionate with yourself – the habits we have will not surrender easily. It takes perseverance and awareness to activate a different way of engaging – BUT it can be done.
Change the way you think, sit and stand and you will change the way you speak and think. Become centred and inclusive and allow possibility into your life.