I’ve long been a believer that our thoughts attract (and often create) the experiences we have day to day.
I’ve worked diligently on attracting a better quality of life in all areas, from money to health to peace of mind, and I’ve made some great progress. I constantly seek to see the glass half full. I aspire to light the spark in my own life and the life of others. I’ve transitioned from a lack-focused existence to an almost constant state of passion, joy, and enthusiasm about my life.
With all this new found purpose I became curious as to why I still had this vague feeling that I was still bumping up against something.
As I started observing myself more and noticing my patterns of behavior I became aware of one fairly huge fact – Self-Worth.
If you don’t believe in yourself you will RESIST anything good you try to attract yourself to!
Through observation I noticed that I was only accepting into my reality that which my existing self-worth agreed I deserved and pushing away everything else.
I had to start to focus on BOTH my belief that I was worthy and valuable as well as my belief in my capabilities.
Belief in yourself as worthy and valuable is linked to who you are as a person. If you are lacking in this area you may experience feelings of negativity about yourself, an emptiness and you will probably dwell on all the negative aspects of your life. You want a better life but don’t believe you deserve one so therefore remain silent.
Belief in your own capabilities is more linked to what you believe you are capable of achieving.
In order to improve your self-worth you need to have a healthy image of yourself in both these areas.
Here are two simple ways to get started:
- Get into the habit of speaking kindly to yourself.
Most of us have a very negative, consistent stream of thought that we’re not even aware of most of the time. Now and then you might become aware that you’re berating yourself, or bullying yourself, or otherwise speaking negatively to yourself. This practice will continue to damage your self-image!
Instead, try to work on speaking kindly and lovingly to yourself as often as possible. Address your inner self directly and say things like, “Hi there! You are really great, you know that?” Let feelings of love and appreciation flow from your conscious mind to your inner (subconscious) self.
Remember that this isn’t a quick fix, you’ll need to re-write years of negative scripting and beliefs, but you should see some noticeable improvement (even on a small scale) within a few weeks.
- Get into the habit of taking action.
A negative perception of your capabilities often causes you to hold back on taking any action at all! If you continue with this pattern of belief, you eventually end up feeling “trapped” with no way out of dissatisfying circumstances. To overcome this blockage and strengthen your belief in your capabilities you need to PUSH yourself into taking action.
If you start to undo the past patterns of behaviour you will start to see that having a strong belief in yourself and your capabilities will attract positive experiences in your life.